KOP Matchmakers | 10 Signs Dating in Philadelphia Terrifies You

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Sometimes you might feel desperate to find love, until the possibility of finding it is standing right in front of you.  (It’s like when you agree to jump off a cliff with a friend into the lake.  But once you get up there, you say to yourself, “No way I’m doing this! Are you crazy?”)  Fear often gets in the way and prevents people from finding the love they crave.  But just like when you were a kid and learned that monsters under the bed were fake, your dating fears are also imaginary.  Well, some are legitimate, but as KOP matchmakers with nearly 30 years helping singles like yourself, we know most of them are nothing to be feared.

Today, we’re going to show you the signs you’re terrified of dating in Philadelphia and how it’s damaging your love life.  If you notice a few of these fears, it’s time to make some positive changes so you can finally find the love you desire.

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1. You’re afraid of getting your heart broken.

Let’s get this one out of the way because it’s probably exactly what scares you most about dating.  Everyone is afraid of getting their heart broken.  No one ventures into the Philly dating scene with high hopes of having their heart shattered into a thousand pieces.  You’ve probably dated your fair share of bad people who let you down, but unless you continue to date, then you’re never going to find love.

Is it possible that you’ll have your heart broken again?  Yes, absolutely.  But if you’re afraid to date because you’re afraid to get hurt again, then your dating life is not going to go anywhere.

2. You like your life and don’t want anything to change.

You know that if you get in a relationship it will alter your schedule, which is the last thing you honestly want right now.  You have a job you love, you have a great group of friends, and you have a loving family.  For you, that’s all you really need.  You spend your free time watching your favorite TV shows at home, going to the gym, and swearing that you’ll do a lot more home-cooking week after week.

3. You’re going on too many bad dates.

You’ve gone on too many bad dates, the ones that make you want to run away through the bathroom window and never look back.  You’ve gone on dates where the people sitting across from you look nothing like they did in their profile pictures, and that’s one of the most terrifying things about dating in Philadelphia.  We feel your pain.  But fear not, unlike online dating sites, we can prevent this from happening to you.

4. You’re scared of letting someone in.

If you haven’t been in a relationship for a while, it can be strange and a little bit weird to let someone get to know you.  You might be afraid of letting them see you disheveled in the morning.  You only want them to see you at your best, not your worst.  You might believe that the only reason people find you desirable is because they don’t know you too well because you have always managed to put the best version of yourself on display (something you might not be able to do once you’re in a committed relationship).

Remember that if you want to find love in Philly, you can’t hide forever.  You need to understand that no one is perfect.  Your next boyfriend or girlfriend will not be perfect either.  They got that memo a long time ago, and it’s time for you to let it sink in yourself.

5. You don’t want to force anything.

Dating in Philadelphia can feel like a second job, and you already work 60 hours/week.  Dating involves many decisions, including like where to eat, what to wear, what to talk about, etc.  For you, this is all too exhausting.

6. You think you’re too busy for dating.

If you’re afraid of getting into a relationship because you believe you’re too busy, then there’s a much bigger problem at hand, and it has nothing to do with the search for love.  As professional matchmakers, we know you’re hiding behind your work, hobbies, or your favorite TV show obsession.  What are you so afraid of?  If your job is standing in the way of love, what else is it getting in the way of?  Your health?  Your social life?  Your sanity?  Tell us.

7. You never go on more than a few dates.

You always seem to find a reason to stop seeing them after the second or third date.  Your friends and family tell you that you’re too picky or that you’re looking for Mr. or Mrs. Perfect.  But in all reality, we know what is going on here.  You are afraid of letting them get close to you and push them away instead.

8. You’re inexperienced in dating.

There is nothing wrong with not being the ultimate dater.  But your inexperiences can hold you back if you let them.  Remember that no one became a great dater overnight.  Believe us, the more practice you have, the better you’ll get.

9. You’re still figuring out who you are as a person.

We’re all a work in progress.  We’re all young at heart.  Meeting someone new means needing to explain things about yourself and your life.  Whether you love your career or dream of something else, if you’re close to friends and family, or if you’re overall happy, these are all things you’ll have to talk about with your new love interest, things you may not even have an answer to for yourself.  It can be tricky to imagine yourself becoming a part of someone else’s life, but you have to make yourself vulnerable and let them in.

10. You’re afraid of getting hurt.

It’s a classic sign dating terrifies you.  If you go on a first date, you might want a second, while they might not.  And that right there terrifies you.  If you date someone for a few months only to have them break up with you, this scares you so much that you would rather fly solo for now.

So why are you so afraid of dating in Philadelphia?  What is it that truly terrifies you?  We know it has a lot to do with the way you date and the avenues you choose.  Don’t worry, because we can make dating in Philadelphia easier on you.  In fact, we can make it enjoyable, the way it’s supposed to be!

To combat your fears of dating in Philadelphia, fill out the private form at the top of this page and reserve your FREE (90 minute) matchmaking consultation with Philadelphia Singles Dating Service today.

Let our KOP matchmakers give you the guidance and support you need, along with one-on-one dating coaching to get you where you want to be in your romantic life.  We promise you that dating in Philadelphia will soon be fun and exhilarating—anything but terrifying!

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